Gone Bondage, Back Later - A Quick Look
Who knew that writing sex tips for all of your sexy perverts would be so much fun? OK, you might not be openly enjoying being a pervert, but we’re pretty much guilty of being pervs on all counts. After all, who else would get so much fun writing sex tips for people that they’ve never met in their lives? I think that’s what keeps all of those advice sex columnists going year after year, but I digress.
Anyway, one of the top questions that gets sent in has to be about bondage. There’s nothing that seems to scare people more than talking about bondage. Hey, to each their own — bondage can be fun, and bondage can be downright horrendous. Maybe that’s why so many people are drawn to bondage in the first place — there’s something hidden, taboo, and forbidden about bondage, and everyone gets excited about things that they have been told not to get excited by. There’s just that type of effect, and that’s completely OK.
All jokes aside, it has to be stressed that there’s nothing wrong with pursuing bondage if you really want to. You just have to make sure that you’re walking into this subject the right way.
It all starts with communication. Now, you might feel like you just wont’ be able to get anything done if you have to tell your partner what you’re up to. However, if you really want to tie up your partner and play bondage games, chances are good that they would definitely like to know before they get into bed with you!
Honestly, the adventurous partner will definitely want to know, but that doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t support you as much as possible. Most people are pretty understanding about getting into new things, but no one wants to be deceived. You don’t want to spring this on your partner five minutes before you climb into bed.
You might need to explain a few things, such as the fact that you won’t always be pursuing bondage all the time in bed. One of the biggest concerns that people have about bondage is that it will be something that takes over their life. You can blame movies for this, since they usually portray all people that love bondage as being “freaks” and not social at all. Once you start getting into bondage, you’ll find that it might have a place in your bed, but it’s not necessarily a permanent place.
You will need to think about your budget when it comes to practicing bondage as well. One of the not-so-sexy things about sex toys and accessories is that they tend to be quite expensive. This means that you might be paying through the nose for bondage gear over time if you really get into it. Does this mean that you will have to take a second mortgage out on your home in order to afford everything? Not necessarily — you just need to make sure that you will be able to start slow.
One of the best starting items for bondage in bed has to be handcuffs. Yes, it’s those fuzzy handcuffs that you see all of the time, but never got the guts to buy for yourself. Break out of your shyness and pick some up!
Of course, you can also turn everyday items into fun bondage toys, such as scarves and soft rope. In fact, a lot of hardcore bondage people skip right over the sex toy shop and go straight to the hardware store.
As you might imagine, a lot of bondage play is about your imagination and getting into the moment than what you’re actually using to get things accomplished. You have to just wait for the right moment to really step into bondage games. It’s important to make sure that you don’t try to rush through the process. Your partner may need to take more time than you. On the other hand, your partner may be all for stepping into bondage and you might want to take your time.
There are a few safety points that you will need to keep in mind when it comes to really making a success in the world of bondage. First and foremost, you will need to ensure that you are actually respecting the other person’s limits. You never know what being tied up will bring out in a person, and it’s important to be able to stop when they’re uncomfortable. This is usually accomplished through using a safeword more than anything else. A safeword is just a phrase that is bizarre enough to make you realize it’s time to stop. The reason why you don’t want to use “no” or “stop” is because you might get caught up in the heat of the moment. Besides, who hasn’t said “no” and not really meant it? By using a special phrase that you both know means that it’s time to stop the games, you will walk out of bed happy and mentally ready to have fun another day.
Overall, it’s important not to get discouraged when it comes to bondage. There’s a lot of fun to be had when it comes to bondage games, but only if you step into things knowing exactly where you stand. That’s really all there is to it, so why not have a good time already?
