How to Tell if You Just Had a One Night Stand
Let’s face it — in the quest to get laid, we’ll do a lot of things that we normally wouldn’t. However, is there really anything wrong with this? OK, you got us — we’re not necessarily the morality police. We’re here to help you have a good time, get some good sex, and reach your own version of the happy ending. What’s wrong with that?
Now, you might want more from sex than your average bear. Some people want a little relationship to go with their sex, while some decide to hold the relationship off, kind of like lettuce on a sandwich. It’s really up to you to make sure that you’re always shaping and refining your sexual destiny; no matter how bleak or bright it looks at the moment. As it’s popularly said, the future is always changing.
One question that gets asked over and over again is whether or not you can tell if you just had a one night stand. We chatted among ourselves and came up with a few points from our shared experiences. 
1. The Location
Hang out with a bunch of crazy real estate agents for a while and you’ll be screaming “Location, location, location!” with the best of them. Why? this is because in real estate, nothing is more important than location when it comes to selling a properly. The last thing that you will want to do ignore this principle in your sex life. When you decide to go to a nightclub or even a bar, you’re not necessarily looking for Mr. / Mrs. Right, now are you? OK, maybe you might be looking for a soul mate in a nightclub, but it’s also safe to say that you wouldn’t turn down a good cocktail, if you know what we mean.
When you’re picking up people in bars, sex is going to be one of the biggest points that you can draw on. Everyone wants sex in a bar. Everyone wants to get a little pleasure for a little while. There’s nothing wrong with this, but you have to know where you stand in the grand scheme of things. In addition, you also need to know when to back down, and when to push for more.
Let’s take an example. One of the guys on our team went out to a bar looking for a good time. He met a great girl with a great body, and they started chatting over drinks. Now, our good buddy isn’t really the type for a one night stand — he’s said that over and over. So when he got to go back to her place for coffee, he figured that all the good conversation that they had was really leading to somewhere sexy, fun, and most of all — semi-permanent.
The fact that they slept together wasn’t what bothered our good buddy — not at all. In fact, he couldn’t shut up about that part, which irritated us after a time (Hey, just because we write about sex doesn’t mean we want to hear about it all the time, you know!).
What really irritated our friend was the fact that he never heard back from the lady ever again. No emails. No Facebook. No contact whatsoever. It made him feel a little self conscious, and even a little bit annoyed all in the same package. He felt rejected because he didn’t get a response, and this dragged him down.
Of course, we were quick to tell him — dude, it’s OK. You just had a one night stand and didn’t realize it. Next time, he won’t invest so much emotion into something that’s temporary by design.
2. The Conversation
You need to stop and think about the conversations that you have with the people that you actually want to sleep with. If the conversation goes from flirty to super porn-star-nasty, chances are good that you’re about to embark on a sexy one night stand. On the other hand, if it’s more “getting to know” type of conversation, you’ll want to assume that you have a chance at getting a relationship.
Remember that it’s just a chance at a relationship — there’s still no guarantee that you will be able to get the relationship that you ultimately desire so much. You will still need to show off your good qualities and control your areas of improvement like anyone else if you really want to have a relationship worth fighting for.
Contact information is also a must — who wants to feel like no one wants to call them back? Do keep in mind that some people might not want to give you their contact information first. They may feel like it’s an invitation to being stalked if things don’t work out, and they’re cautious about their privacy. Don’t hold that against them. In the age of the internet, who really needs a phone number anymore? If you want to hear the other person’s voice, you can see if they have something like Skype installed on their computer — they’ll be able to talk to you still, all without exposing their actual number. Facebook and MySpace make good contact information points, and you will be able to share pics and video very easily.
3. You! You! You!
The last point that we would have to bring up is that it really all depends on your state of mind. For example, if you think that you don’t want a relationship, then naturally you’re going to lean more towards temporary arrangements than anything permanent. Don’t beat yourself up because you want the one night stand over the relationship. Some people aren’t ready for another relationship, and there’s no rule that says that you have to rush into another one.
It’s OK to really step back and just have a little fun, but you have to allow yourself to do that. You don’t want to try to just go with a relationship because that’s what other people are going with.
Overall, if you really take the time to stop and know what you really want, you’ll have no problem getting what you really want!
