Losing Your Virginity - 3 Tips to Getting the Best Experience Around
Are you a virgin? It’s a pretty loaded question to ask, which is why I’m glad there’s an entire Internet standing between you and I right now. It’s really all about finding your best time to embark on your sexual journey. Now, there’s a reason why I put it this way, so hear me out.
First and foremost, I don’t think adult virgins are really that big of a deal. A lot of people attach a lot of sentiment to losing your virginity; — after all, do you ever really forget your first? However, there’s no need to worry about it in great detail, or think that there’s no one that wants to sleep with you. Whether you’re male or female, chances are pretty good that someone wants to sleep you with eventually.
Now, you might have reasons why you’ve remained a virgin. Those are your reasons, and no one should make you feel bad for them> if you wanted to continue being a virgin, then you should continue to do that. However, there’s going to come a time where you want to lose your virginity, and that’s what this guide addresses to the best of its ability.
There are essentially three steps to the perfect experience when you’re a virgin, and the below is the list along with my recommendations.
1. Accept Imperfections!
A lot of virgins have an idea of their first time, but it’s very unrealistic. They want a perfect experience, and the truth is that it is far from that. If you’re a woman, then you have to understand that you might experience some pain and soreness before things really heat up. That’s perfectly normal and part of the process. On the other hand, if you’re a man, you have to understand that you’re not going to perform well to start with. It will take time before you’re really performing the way you might expect. Orgasm control is difficult when you’re a virgin, and it’ll take some more sessions before you’re up and running. That’s part of the fun, right?
2. Take It Easy!
After you’ve had your first sexual experience, you will probably want to have another, and another and another — whether or not that’s with the same person is up to you. You will need to make sure that you take things slow in order to really enjoy the moment. IT can be hard to slow down when you really want to set out and explore everything around you sexually, but you will need to.
Even before you get to the main event, you will want to take things slowly. When we rush, we tend to make mistakes. If you’re not with someone monogamously, then you will definitely want to make sure that you have condoms. This can be something that’s pretty hard to deal with too, since feelings can really flare up. It’s okay to be emotional bout your first time, and it’s definitely okay to make sure that you can process that. However, that nails my point home perfectly: you need to take it easy. Don’t rush through anything — including your emotions.
3. Savor the Moment, But Be Realistic!
If you’re following along, you might have realized that point #3 assumes that you’re no longer a virgin. This is not a point where you want to experience anguish or fear — it’s perfectly okay to be a sexually active adult. You just need to keep things in perspective. If you’re with someone that you love, you might have some different emotions than if it was just a sexual partner that you’re not romantically involved.
You will want to look back on every aspect of your recent sexual adventure, but you will want to make sure that you are definitely keeping things in the right perspective. You have to be realistic. If it’s someone that’s mostly with you for the sexual ride, you will want to savor the moment you had with them, but not press for a relationship. When you’re first getting started in the world of sex, it’s easy to confuse love with sex, or assume that one naturally follows the other. Humans have been having sexual pleasure for a long time without any attachment, and they will continue to do so. Before you even really get deep into the world of sexual pleasure, you will want to make sure that you’re protecting your heart as much as possible. There are a few other guides on this site about that so don’t skip over them in the slightest. They are important.
As you can see, the steps here are general. There’s a good reason for that: I wanted to write this guide for both genders, rather than having a “woman’s guide” and a “men’s guide”. Virginity is a topic that’s very sensitive to both men and women. Even though society tends to make a bigger deal out of female virginity than male virginity, the reality is that a lot of people still assign great worth to both. There was just a bit of tabloid fodder around Selena Gomez’s purity ring, or the purity rings of other teen stars. It seems that we’re all going to be obsessed with virginity for a long time to come, but at least you have this guide to fall back on — have fun!
