Roleplay - Just Another Way to Make Sex Interesting!
OK, at the risk of repeating ourselves, we have to get one thing straight here: sex should be fun. Do you need to hear it again? OK — sex should be FUN! The problem with the way we see se in today’s sex obsessed culture is that we want to make sure that we’re always having perfect sex. Unfortunately, there’s no such thing — sometimes mistakes happen, sometimes things don’t go quite the way we plan. Instead of worrying about every little thing in bed, you just need to learn how to let your hair down and have a good time.
Speaking of letting your hair down, if you’re really interested in having fun between the sheets, here’s something that you might want to try: roleplay! Indeed, roleplay games in bed can be incredibly sexy — or they can really weigh you down. Instead of feeling like it’s impossible to really have a great time in bed, you will be opening the door to a completely different world when you actually decide to go for some good roleplay.
Before you break out the sexy pirate costume and dive in, there are a few things that you might want to think about when it comes to roleplay.
First and foremost, it’s important to talk out what you want — and what you don’t want. Your girlfriend might not want to be the damsel tied to the train while you play the evil villain — it’s just a matter of thinking about the way that they actually feel about things. You need to make sure that you’re respecting their space as much as possible. If you don’t, you’ll only end up making things hard on yourself in the long run.
However, this rule isn’t just for men trying to take care of their girlfriends and partners. Women also need to respect a man’s space. He might not feel comfortable playing certain characters, and there’s really no reason to try to force him into doing that.
You will also need to think about what costumes that you do want to pick up, if you even want to pick up costumes at all. Some people don’t feel comfortable going all the way into a good roleplay, so they leave the costumes for a time when they are actually more comfortable with something like that. It’s really up to you and your partner to figure out how deep you want to go into roleplay. Sometimes you can turn regular old things into costumes. For example, if your girlfriend has a fantasy about being helpless and terrorized by your evil villain side, a bunch of old shirts and pants will work well in a pinch. After all, tearing up clothes is fun when you know that you won’t have to worry about replacing them!
Don’t forget that you also have your voices, hand gestures, and small accessories. Scarves and hats make for good props, but don’t ignore the power of imagination. In the world of roleplay, everything is as you and your partner create it to be. Chairs can become beach chairs and long tables can become filled with all manners of sexy toys and kits to inspire the senses. Sometimes taking all of the props out of the equation can inspire you and your partner to new, sexy roleplaying heights — you just never know!
Roleplay and sex do go well together, but keep in mind that you don’t always have to take everything to a level of penetration. If you just want to stay in character and make out and roll around in bed, you should feel at ease doing that. It’s better to make sure that you will be able to handle anything that comes your way instead of worrying about making mistakes that will create wedges in bed.
If you do decide to bring costumes into it, well…it really can’t be said enough: pick them out together! Roleplay is something that you really can’t surprise a partner with. If you start talking about roleplay games in bed to someone that just isn’t into it, trust us: they will let you know. There’s nothing sexy about forcing your partner to do something just for you.
However, there is something sexy about a partner that’s willing to try out roleplay for you, even if they aren’t really into it. It’s a sign that they’re willing to try new things and be adventurous; which really is a very sexy thing to do!
When you know that you want to dive in headfirst, you should go ahead and do just that. There’s really no set time that you have to stop and decide when you want to pursue roleplay. By the same token, pursuing roleplay doesn’t mean that it has to be the central theme to all of your lovemaking sessions. You might just want to have a “normal” session and leave the roleplay games for another time.
Overall, we find ourselves full circle again. Roleplay is fun, sex is fun, and when you put the two together you’re definitely in for a treat. Keep in mind that even if you give roleplaying a try and you don’t like it, it doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you or something wrong with your partner. It just means that it’s something that doesn’t turn you on. You shouldn’t feel pressured to keep going with something that just doesn’t make sense in your sexy, flirty, lovemaking world. Have fun!
